Father’s Day

I didn’t get a chance to do a Father’s Day post yesterday, but couldn’t let the occasion pass by without at least a belated mention for the guy who is (in my biased opinion) the bestest daddy in the whole wide world. From those first sleepless nights pacing the hospital room, singing softly to comfort our crying newborn, to that moment yesterday when he somehow knew just the right thing to say to get our cranky overtired toddler to take a nap — he’s a natural at this fatherhood thing. Gentle and loving and endlessly patient. I couldn’t have wished for a better father for my children, not even if I had one of those magic monkey paws that can grant wishes.

Father's Day 2013

Kind of a funny story about the above photo — we were enjoying a leisurely barbecue with my family, and Lillian didn’t want to take a break from running around in order to sit on daddy’s lap for 30 seconds to take the mandatory Father’s Day photo, so we decided to get clever about it. We took the photo while Joe put on her sandals, an activity she’s been known to sit still for — and it worked! Both of them were even looking at the camera and everything.

I was especially excited because it provides a really sweet sequel to the photo we took of these two on Father’s day last year:

Father's Day 2012

I’m a sucker for these “look at how much she’s grown” photos (as I’m sure any regular reader of this blog is already well aware). Just look at how teeny and cuddly she was… and how she’s looking more and more like a “big kid” every day.

Another funny story — Lillian said “Baby!” when she saw that photo from last year on my computer, so we tried to explain that it’s a picture of her when she was a baby. Though I’m not sure how understandable the concept of having grown and changed so much is at her age. Heck, sometimes it’s almost incomprehensible to me, and I’ve got 26 years on this little girl.

On a more somber note, a Father’s Day post wouldn’t be complete without a link to this post in remembrance of my dad, who passed away last July. There was no way of knowing on Father’s Day last year that we would lose him less than a month later, and missing him hit me kind of hard yesterday since it was the first Father’s Day without him. He was an amazing dad, a huge part of shaping who I am today… and I like to think he would be proud and happy to see his granddaughter growing up under the loving care of another amazing dad.

I hope all the dads out there had a great day yesterday.

8 Comments

  1. I was thinking about you and your mom Sunday. I know how difficult the first holidays without a loved one can be, so I’m sending some hugs to you borh across the miles.

    I’m not surprised to hear what a wonderful daddy Joe is. He had an awesome role model! I don’t believe that I have ever met a more devoted dad (and husband) than Bill Hart. He did and still does whatever he has to do to take care of his family, and I have no doubt that Joseph is the same way.

    I admire the mutual love and respect that I see between you and Joe. He respects you the way his father respects the woman in his life, and you respect Joe the way your mom respected your dad. I’m so happy for Lillian that she gets to grow up in a stable and happy household with two parents that love her and each other as much as you and Joe do. When she grows up, she will seek out the kind of man that her daddy is so that she can have the kind of relationship that her parents have. She won’t settle for less than a man who respects and loves her the way her daddy loves her mommy. Daddies are the first men in girls’ lives, and that relationship is what shapes what they look for in a man. You had a great father, and because of that, you were able to choose a great husband and father for your children.

    Sorry for the length of my post, but this is a subject I feel very strongly about. I firmly believe that if my dad had been there for me, I might not be on my 3rd marriage right now. You and Joe make a fantastic team! Love to all of you!

    • No need to apologize, and thanks for taking the time to share such a thoughtful comment. I think you’re right about children’s ideas about relationships being influenced by the ones they see firsthand, and especially little girls impressions of what an ideal future husband might look like based on their own father, stepfather, or other father figure role model in their lives. I feel lucky every day to have Joe and Lillian and marvel at how the stars aligned to let me stumble into this amazing little family somehow. Thanks again for reading and commenting, and love to you as well! :)

  2. I think I’ve said this before, but if our Dads are not here for us to thank them now for their sacrifice and love, what we must do is pay it forward! I think you and Joe are doing just that! And Lily will benefit, as well as many others. One of my favorite quotes put it best:
    “Each smallest act of kindness reverberates across great distances and spans of time, affecting lives unknown to the one whose generous spirit was the source of this good echo, because kindness is passed on and grows each time it’s passed, until a simple courtesy becomes an act of selfless courage years later and far away. Likewise, each small meanness, each expression of hatred, each act of evil.”

    This Momentous Day, H. R. White

    • Beautifully said about paying it forward when our loved ones are no longer here to thank them firsthand for their love and support over the years. I couldn’t have said it better, and would like to think you’re right about how well we’re succeeding at passing that love on to the next generation. And I love the quote — so true, and wise words to take to heart. Thanks for taking the time to share this comment. :)

  3. Losing your dad is never easy, no matter what age, and the holidays can be hard at first. But share your memories with Lillian, and he will live on. Wonderful post, Sarah, and wonderful pictures. {{{{hugs}}}}

    • So true, I can’t imagine any amount of life experience would make it easier to lose a parent, or to miss them less at the holidays they always used to be there for… but it’s a small comfort knowing we’ll always keep their memory alive in our hearts. Thanks for the sweet comment and sending lots of hugs in return. :)

  4. Thank you as always for the pictures, and for keeping us up to date. I always knew you guys would make great parents, and I share your grief over your lost Dad. There will always be a sadness about it, but I promise the time will come when the memories will make you smile more than cry.

    I have a poem I wish to share with Joe, I got it for my Dad one Fathers Day when he was kind of down, and I’m passing it on to Joe because of how proud I am of the man he has become. I do not know the author it I’m afraid.

    THAT MAN
    IS A SUCCESS
    who has lived well,
    laughed often and loved much;

    who has gained the respect
    of intelligent men
    and the love of children;

    who has filled his niche
    and accomplished his task;

    who leaves the world better
    than he found it,
    whether by an improved poppy,
    a perfect poem
    or a rescued soul;

    who never lacked appreciation
    of earth’s beauty
    or failed to express it;

    who looked for the best in others
    and gave the best he had.

    Love you all, see you soon! Hug that baby for me!!!!

    • Thank you for this thoughtful comment and for sharing your kind words — it means a lot to me, and to Joe as well I’m sure. And I love the poem — I think it’s a great reminder that even though our modern society tends to measure “success” in terms of the amount of money we make, or how much prestige or power we attain, there are so many more important things to remember in this world, and so much more to living a good life. It’s a healthy perspective to keep in mind, especially when things seem tougher or gloomier than usual, so thanks again for sharing.

      Looking forward to seeing you guys soon, lots of love to everyone, and I’ll make sure to give Lillian an extra hug for you! :)

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